Achievement often favors those who understand the right words to use, the appropriate moments to express them, and the manner in which to convey them. Those who possess talent but lack effective communication skills may miss out on realizing their full potential.
In the hustle and bustle of daily life and work commitments, we might forget how significant our words can be. A few impulsive remarks can destroy relationships or opportunities, just as a lack of words can do the same. There are times when the individuals around you require clarity about your stance on specific matters or your feelings toward them. The key element that may enhance your success in relationships, career, or business pursuits could be right in front of you! This week, I would like to share five straightforward insights regarding the words you choose to express:
1. Recognize when to remain silent.
Some individuals are more prone to speaking up than others, but those who achieve the greatest success tend to understand when it’s best to stay silent. You might currently be facing a situation that is impeded by excessive talking rather than aided by it. Embrace silence—often, the best insights emerge when we allow ourselves to listen.
2. Allow yourself some time for contemplation.
We are all familiar with the phrase, “think before you speak.” Consider this a gentle reminder that it is always prudent to reflect on the potential effects your words will create once spoken. Prior to voicing your thoughts, contemplate the most effective way to communicate your message. Even in situations where a prompt response is necessary, take a moment to collect your thoughts. This will help you appear more considerate and boost your confidence in your message. If you require additional time to formulate a response, you can simply say, “Let me take a moment to think about that.”
3. Decline to grumble and whine.
It’s easy to discover something to grieve over if we concentrate on the unfavorable. Make a conscious choice to recognize the positives in every situation and avoid squandering your words on complaints and grievances. Instead, pose the question, “What solution can help me overcome the challenges I’m currently facing?” Complaining drains energy—both your own and that of others. Use your communication to uplift and invigorate, rather than exhaust.
4. Share something positive!
Back in the 1970s, Chaka Khan released a catchy tune called Tell Me Something Good, which became her breakout hit. I still find joy in singing it whenever it plays on the radio.
Fourteen years ago, I suggested in a newsletter that you and others ask daily, “What’s the best thing that has happened to you recently?” Are you still in the habit of reflecting on this question? Maintain the practice of recognizing the positive aspects of your life so that your discussions remain balanced and do not become solely fixated on negative circumstances.
5. Articulate your aspirations into reality.
A common reason many individuals fail to achieve their aspirations is that they lack genuine belief in their ability to succeed. Not only do they harbor doubt, but they also voice negative opinions about their likelihood of success. At times, you need to express your way into a belief in the possibilities that lie ahead. Speak optimistically about the future you envision. “I will achieve my objective by doing XYZ….” Even if self-doubt whispers in your mind (“You can’t do that!” “Who do you think you are?!”), resist the urge to voice those thoughts.
Eventually, your mindset will align with your affirmative declarations.
