Known by various labels such as the hustle, the grind, or going all in, entrepreneurs often flaunt their extensive work hours, noticeable dark circles, and stress-related weight changes as symbols of pride. Society admires these individuals who forfeit weekends and restful nights, viewing them as the elite few who are prepared to go the extra mile for success. They seem almost otherworldly, perpetually ready to be the first one in and the last one out. Yet, often personal relationships, self-care, and leisure—elements essential for a well-rounded and healthy life—are the sacrifices made in the pursuit of these goals.
A work ethic that might appear commendable can also be referred to as workaholism. Although research on the matter is relatively recent, experts largely concur that about 10 to 25 percent of adults in the U.S. may fall under this category.
A Precise Definition
Workaholism does not appear in the DSM-5 as a mental disorder. Defining it is challenging, and diagnosing it is even harder. The term “workaholism” was first introduced in the late 1960s by Wayne Oates, a psychologist and self-identified workaholic. According to Oates, workaholism is characterized as “the compulsion or the uncontrollable need to work incessantly.”
Distinguishing between a workaholic and someone with an exceptional work ethic—like an entrepreneur launching a startup—can be quite complex. Most specialists suggest that the differentiation relates to one’s attitude toward work. An entrepreneur might put in significant hours during the initial phases of their venture, yet if they can disconnect and show equal commitment to leisure, they are likely not facing chronic workaholism. In contrast, an entrepreneur who works long hours while feeling guilty for not achieving more, constantly checks their email, and discusses work in casual settings might warrant a reevaluation.
An entrepreneur might put in significant hours during the initial phases of their venture, yet if they can disconnect and show equal commitment to leisure, they are likely not facing chronic workaholism.
The Implications
No matter how we define it, an unhealthy obsession with work can lead to several serious long-term repercussions. Commonly mentioned side effects include poor sleep, digestive ailments, memory problems, increased alcohol consumption, and a heightened risk of developing type 2 diabetes. Workaholism often appears in individuals seeking self-worth, their self-esteem precariously resting on external validation from social circles. They struggle with delegation as leaders, convinced they are not just the best but the sole individuals capable of fulfilling a task.
Though those entrenched in work might seem the most productive, a growing collection of studies indicates that sustained stress on the mind and body ultimately reduces productivity over time. Colleagues working alongside such overachievers can feel ineffective, fostering resentment and creating a toxic atmosphere. The workaholic then becomes ensnared in their own design, eliciting both admiration and empathy.
Tackling Workaholism
If you find it difficult to embrace opportunities for rest; if work looms over your thoughts even during vacations, and if minor work-related issues keep you awake at night, it might be time for self-reflection and to consider significant changes.
1. Conduct a self-evaluation. Reflect on your mental and physical state for signs of fatigue and deprivation. If uncertain, consult a trusted friend or family member who can offer an unbiased opinion.
2. Have a conversation with your partner. Workaholism significantly raises the likelihood of divorce. If you both perceive a challenge, engage in a discussion with your partner to address any unmet desires. Outline what a healthy work-life balance resembles for each other and see how they compare.
3. Track instances of obsessive work thoughts. Particularly note these during designated relaxation times. You might want to seek professional assistance to uncover any underlying issues propelling your compulsive work behavior. Joining an established support network, like Workaholics Anonymous, may also be beneficial.
4. Disconnect your devices at home. If your profession requires constant connectivity, designate specific times when you will not be available. If necessary, recruit a colleague or subordinate to manage calls and emails during those times.
5. Record moments of gratitude for non-work activities. For instance, when you can attend your child’s school performance or enjoy a weekend getaway with friends.
Marina Byezhanova
Co-founder and director of Pronexia, Inc.; Montreal
As someone who often works extensively while aiming to be a dedicated parent, I frequently feel a sense of guilt. When at home, I feel remorse for not working; when at work, I feel regret for not being with my family. My approach involves continually focusing on achieving inner peace so that I can concentrate on my current responsibilities and disengage when necessary.
Each person has their unique interpretation of balance. For me, it suggests not being able to immerse myself completely in a single focus. I successfully led my business to over $1 million in revenue by the fourth year, yet I acknowledged that achieving tenfold that amount while being a present and involved parent to two children was unfeasible. I excel as a parent, but I can’t manage weekly volunteer commitments at my daughter’s school or bake for the semi-annual bake sale like some other moms do. Achieving balance, in my case, means putting in 75-hour weeks but turning off all electronics and dedicating weekends to family. We each have our own framework. Embrace it, take ownership, and stop feeling guilty for charting your own course to success and fulfillment.
Carisa Miklusak
CEO and president of tilr; New York City
Back in my early 20s, I won a sales competition and had the chance to spend an afternoon with Jack Welch. He expressed his skepticism about the concept of work-life balance, indicating instead the importance of work-life choices. This insight has stayed with me and still resonates today. Ensuring your commitment to hard work stems from conscious choices rather than a mindless habit or a lack of alternative roles distinguishes a workaholic from a healthy overachiever.
There is reciprocity in prioritizing anything in life. When faced with a dilemma between work and a personal event, I employ a straightforward technique to evaluate how I’ll feel about missing either. I project myself into the future and narrate the story in reverse, as if I’d skipped the event. If it’s easy to narrate, it’s likely an event worth missing. If the narrative doesn’t have a pleasant outcome, then it should take precedence.
Stop searching for a conventional definition of balance; instead, make intentional choices about how you spend your work time versus leisure time. The essence lies in being deliberate and in charge of your schedule, rather than allowing yourself to be swept away.
Thomas Nguyen
Co-founder and CEO of Peli Peli Restaurant Group; Houston
I am passionate about my work, and in the restaurant sector, fully disconnecting can be quite a challenge. However, if I neglect to manage my working hours wisely, it adversely affects my personal life and my relationship with my wife. Time is limited, and in order to cultivate a rewarding work and personal life, quality time must be invested in both. This isn’t always easy. My wife prefers to sleep in on weekends and cherishes our meals together. Therefore, I wake up early to get some work done, attend to personal responsibilities, and often end up working late after she has gone to bed. I aim to make it home for dinner with her, then continue working afterward. It’s essential to understand your partner’s needs and adapt according to their schedule.
If you desire to have both professional and personal fulfillment, you must be prepared to make sacrifices and devise a schedule that ensures effectiveness as an entrepreneur while being present for crucial moments in your personal life. Time is fleeting, and the moments shared with loved ones cannot be replicated. Entrepreneurs often do not have a predefined timetable, so we should not find it difficult to allocate time for both work and leisure.
