A crucial measure of an individual’s potential for success is their level of grit, defined as the commitment and enthusiasm to achieve a long-term objective despite encountering obstacles and failures, according to Angela Duckworth, Ph.D., a positive psychologist and the author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. She emphasizes that grit is largely independent of one’s innate talent, often leading those with higher grit to achieve greater success than those with more talent but less perseverance. Duckworth conducted a study using a questionnaire to assess the levels of grit in Chicago high school juniors, concluding that it was the key predictor of who would thrive as adults.
“Individuals with grit are motivated less by immediate pleasure or enjoyment and more by the fulfillment of achieving excellence in their endeavors, understanding that their excellence positively impacts others,” Duckworth remarked at the International Positive Education Network’s (IPEN) Festival of Positive Education.
The encouraging news? “Grit, just like any other trait of your character, is subject to change.” Below are Duckworth’s suggested stages for instilling grit in your child.
1. Interest
Nurture your child’s passions before focusing on their weaknesses. Interests tend to grow from within but require external encouragement.
2. Practice
Understand the principles of deliberate practice, which involve 1) establishing an ambitious goal; 2) dedicating full attention to that goal; 3) receiving constructive feedback; and 4) honing skills and reflecting as needed. “These four elements are essential for practicing like a professional,” she states.
3. Purpose
Foster a sense of purpose related to the interests. Your child should recognize that their pursuit extends beyond their own motivations. At this stage, children need to understand that their activities are interconnected with others. Pose questions such as: Do you consider how this might impact others? Do you see a responsibility to improve the world around you?
4. Hope
Encourage your child to build resilience against setbacks and failures during their journey. This is an opportunity to nurture a growth mindset (the belief that abilities can be developed through perseverance) instead of a fixed mindset.
